No whacks, no personal hate, but lots of twortling
COFFEE WITH WARREN, with Warren Harbeck
Cochrane Eagle, November 28, 2001
Some weeks ago our coffee discussion raised the issue of what we could
do for a world out of whack. We proposed the creation of "whack packs"
to replenish its supply. Suggestions for what to include in those whack
packs keep coming in.
The following is from a former British military officer now making the
Bow Valley his home. He objects to the suggestion of one of our other
coffee companions that what the world really needs is a good whack on
A WHACK BEHIND the legs is where it begins, but in some cases it ends
up as a punch in the head. The respect of others has to be earned, not
demanded. It cannot be spanked into someone.
It is a matter of self-whack, of self-discipline.
Family units are breaking down because we have failed to teach our
children the virtue of self-whack.
In this busy world, the pressures of work and "keeping up with
the Joneses" have led us away from an environment where the family
as a whole takes the time to sit down over a home-cooked meal and discuss
problems and solutions of the day.
Respect goes downward to our children by teaching them and living
the examples we, and society in general, want them to follow.
When they learn to respect the values of others, we will take a step
forward in life.
Ken Carter, Calgary
Part of being respectful is taking responsibility for our own attitudes
and actions, regardless of the attitudes and actions of others, according
to my dental hygienist.
Denise Kokaram is a knowledgeable and persuasive person whose views
I always listen to very carefully especially if Im being
held "captive" and "speechless" in her examining chair.
While she was scraping plaque from my teeth the other day, I realized
she had a thought that just had to be included in the whack pack. Her
suggestion: to remove any trace of personal hatred from our own lives.
I asked her if shed share her thoughts with the rest of you, and
here is what she wrote:
IN THE DAYS immediately following the tragic events of Sept. 11, I
felt waves of helplessness. I sought to make sense of what had occurred
and to think of what I could do to make a difference.
I thought about all the fighting that continues in various countries,
and wondered how many people really know what they are fighting over.
Was a large part of the problem that generation upon generation have
been raised to hate and respond in violence?
It struck me that the way we could most positively contribute to the
present situation in the world was to begin with ourselves our
responses to life within our own family and social circles.
Although stopping the cycle of hate and anger in others is outside
my control, I can choose to respond with the absence of hate and anger
in my own life.
If we become more aware of identifying how we deal with our own anger
and hatred, we can begin to change our thoughts, responses, and actions
to be more positive.
I believe that, like ripples from a pebble in the pond, we are each
capable of having far-reaching, significant impact.
In a world out of whack, we need to recognize our individual importance,
reclaim our power, and begin to effect positive changes, starting now!
Denise M. Kokaram, Calgary
Finally, this comment from a loyal coffee companion who thinks the beautiful
sound of "twortling" should be included in the whack pack:
LAST NEW YEARS DAY, I too had the chance to experience twortling.
The neat thing about the spot we were at was the ice suddenly ended,
so our rocks would go twortling across the thin ice and then end with
a satisfied plop in the freezing water. It was truly one of the most
amazing, miraculous sounds we had ever heard.
Darcy Sauer, Cochrane
© 2001 Warren Harbeck
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