Success is being fully alive in the now with contentment
COFFEE WITH WARREN, with Warren Harbeck
Competence, confidence, integrity, mindfulness and compassion were at the heart of a fascinating coffee conversation on success I was part of this week with three motivation consultants and a railway engineer.
But first, a few more emailed responses to our series on success.
Author/speaker Annette Stanwick, of Calgary, wrote that she agreed with Chris Stanley’s definition of success based on why we are here (see my column for June 5):
Darryl Klassen, of Langley, B.C., is the Aboriginal Neighbours program co-ordinator for the Mennonite Central Committee British Columbia (see my column for July 12, 2006). He sent us a great story about what success looks like in working clothes:
From Mumbai, India, our long-distance coffee companion Raj Patwardhan shared his view that “success is contentment.”
Contentment quite nicely captures the spirit of the coffee conversation I referred to at the beginning of this column.
With me Monday morning at Cochrane Coffee Traders, upstairs at the big table, were motivation consultants Chris Stanley, David Irvine and Lori Craig, and Lori’s husband, Joe Pasternak, a railroad engineer.
Since Chris was the one who raised the topic of success with us originally, he wanted to chat face-to-face with some of us who had added our comments on success in follow-up columns.
Chris began by emphasizing the importance of living in the now, in terms not unlike Raj’s.
Yes, it’s about mindfulness, Lori said, and to mindfulness David added authenticity, and all agreed that a proper understanding of ego must also be part of the picture, because success must include being true to oneself.
Joe picked up on the virtue of integrity – of being true to oneself – with an example from his profession, headlined recently because of the run-away train disaster in Quebec.
It is critical that an engineer not only know how to do his job, Joe said, but that he has “a personal desire to do it well, in spite of naysayers.”
All agreed that success in this world implies competence-based self-confidence, but not merely for self-gratification. Youthful visions of personal achievement have their place, David noted, but we must learn to think as adults with a vision for the greater good of all.
Thanks, everyone, for your wisdom.
© 2013 Warren Harbeck